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A MUST READ!
What You Can Expect from My
Sacred Sanctuary
By Dianne Ruth, CCH, PhD
Table of Contents
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Is there anything I can do to feel better right
now?
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How long will it take for me to get better?
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How
often will I need to come in?
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Why is
Life Coaching & Holistic Counseling easier and more effective than traditional
counseling?
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Will I have to
relive any traumas from my past?
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What does Holistic Counseling mean?
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What about
Coaching.... What does it do?
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What
happens in the first session?
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What happens during the following several
sessions?
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How
will I know when I am done?
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What happens when I am all better?
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What is the cost?
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Can I
bring my pet in with me?
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Do you take
insurance?
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What
are your hours?
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Which
is higher, a PhD degree or an MD degree?
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What
should I call you?
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Do
you ever discuss your patients/clients with your
colleagues
or family?
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Why do I have to do so much paperwork?
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Do you have a receptionist, someone
who answers your phone and makes appointments with your clients for you?
ANSWER:
Yes. My approach is multi-level. I take time to teach
a wide variety of
self-help management tools to you (ways to
temporarily help yourself to feel better) while I also concentrate on
doing the deeper work with you that is going to bring about permanent
resolution and healing.
By doing it this way, you can find some short-term
relief while your recovery process is occurring. Also, you can be more
confident that when you are through with your work, the original
problem(s) will not only have disappeared, they will stay gone for good.
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ANSWER:
A course of Life Coaching & Holistic Counseling is
accomplished, on average, between 12 and 16, 1-1/2 hour sessions. Put another way, about three to five months is the
average time
it takes for most clients.
This is dependent on the complexity and depth of the
issues being dealt with. It also depends on how you process information.
Some clients process information very quickly in leaps and
bounds--almost intuitively, while others do this more slowly and tend to
be more thoughtful and thorough.
Some clients have a real need to spend more time
talking through their problems before engaging in the change work, while
others are content to concentrate mainly on following the directives and
going for results.
There is no right way or wrong way. These are simply
samples of individual styles. I honor and respect all approaches to
healing.
By doing 1½ hour sessions throughout your course of coaching, you will
arrive at your goal and achieve your intended outcomes in about half the
time it would take doing the more traditional single 45-minute sessions.
Throughout
our relationship ,
I hold sacred space
filled with compassion, understanding and loving support just for you.
I
am completely non-judgmental and utterly shock-proof, no matter what
comes up. I continue to respond with total acceptance of you as a unique
and special person worthy of all the best life has to offer
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ANSWER:
Weekly sessions
of 1-1/2 hours is the most popular and results in a more
rapid recovery. In addition, I offer several options.
If you are in a
hurry to get through the process in about half the time, and achieve
relief that much faster, doing two 1-1/2 hour sessions weekly, that is a
total of 1-1/2 hours each or 3 hours a week, can make the difference. In
fact, I frequently have clients who choose this
option.
Some clients prefer doing a session every other
week. When doing it this way, the rate of progress is often faster than
the more traditional 45-minute psychotherapy sessions weekly as more material can be covered because you gain
more time by starting and ending a session only once instead of twice.
You have scheduling flexibility. That means you can
choose one way or combine different ways. It has been proven that
phone sessions
are equally as effective and successful as
in-person sessions.
For average recovery time it is important to
make every effort to do a minimum of at least one session every other week.
In the beginning, along with the deeper work taking
place, you are also building a set of
self-help
skills that can
serve you and keep the momentum of your personal development going.
Then, if you have to reduce your number of sessions per month later on,
you can continue to improve, even if your progress is scaled down
accordingly.
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ANSWER:
Imagine, throughout your childhood you received a
number of emotional hurts. Each one was like a puff of air that was
blown into a balloon, which was then held under water. After all, you
wanted to keep it "submerged, repressed and out of sight," right?
After a while, the balloon got bigger and bigger with
every new puff of air that was added to it. Finally, as a result of the
ongoing pressure placed on the "balloon," a full-blown condition of
misery, fear and acute stress takes over your life.
Many professionals would have you learn how to just
"hold the balloon under water" better and longer. I, on the other hand,
will be continuously giving you feedback while showing you how to "let
the air out of the balloon" that you have been "holding under water" for
so long.
For instance, one might be with an anger management program where
the client is taught how to "stuff" or repress their anger more
effectively. Maybe they are taught to count to 10, or snap a rubber
band that they are wearing around their wrist whenever they start to
feel upset.
This is supposed to help the client manage their anger,
and hopefully, prevent them from losing control--which rarely works.
With me, there is no will willpower, effort or struggle
needed for accomplishing the changes you want. That is because most of
the work I do with you is done at the
unconscious level, and
through the non-verbal methods, scientifically engineered and embedded
word patterns and metaphoric messages I use to support and guide you
toward a comfortable recovery.
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ANSWER:
Traditionally,
many professionals have believed that it is necessary to go over and over a
trauma in order for you to desensitize from the distress of it. Current
research indicates that this approach can be psychologically harmful and may
actually make a client worse!
All the
techniques and processes
I use are designed to prevent you from having to
revisit and re-experience any emotionally upsetting events. Healing is
quicker and non-painful when done at the unconscious level.
I have had
many clients over the years that have compared their work with me to their
experience with a former psychotherapist. Their statements have described
entering the session feeling bad, talking about how bad they feel, and
leaving the session feeling worse than when they went in.
With me, they
insist that because of the way I work, they always feel progressively and
surprisingly better by the end of every session.
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ANSWER:
My approach to your healing and recovery is
holistic . I
consider a broader range of human experience than mainstream
psychotherapy does. I include your work, friends and family, gender and
sexuality, understanding yourself and spirituality.
I see you as a complex being whose experiences include
your body, mind and spirit as well as your social and cultural
environment. In addition, I consider heredity and genetic influences,
belief systems, values and personal goals.
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ANSWER:
Coaching guides you in the easy mastery of simple techniques,
processes and methods that help you to feel better. Ultimately, all the
different procedures and systems for healing that I offer you, will
become your own personal tools for continuing your well-being for life.
Coaching also helps you to organize and plan
your tasks, goals and intentions. When working with a coach, there is an
accountability factor involved. This means that when you agree to do
something, the coach will hold you accountable for the accomplishment,
which adds motivation to your performance and the desired result.
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ANSWER:
The first meeting is devoted to our
establishing a mutual rapport, and for me to gain a deeper understanding
of your problems and concerns.
Getting to know each other is an important part of this time together.
This is accomplished through an interactive dialog between the two of
us. I will ask certain leading questions in order to develop a map of
the emotional territory that defines the blocks and crisis you are
experiencing.
Also, time is taken for a quick review of the
initial paperwork.
(I will follow up on my own time with a more detailed
examination of the forms you filled out.) If I have any questions later,
I will bring them up in the following session.
Based on the findings, we will discuss a broad plan of action that will
successfully respond to your personal needs. The beginning of that plan
is then begun.
This plan is created based on the nature of your issues. It generally
consists of selecting a variety of advanced
hypnotic procedures ,
energy work
and other powerful leading edge interventions. For
instance, personalized
"metaphor"
delivery could be included.
Other methods for accelerating your progress involve helping you to learn
simple and powerful self-use tools like
NLP anchoring to have
instant access to feel good resources and
EFT , often
referred to as "acupressure for the emotions." These skills will help to
further your personal development and attain self-mastery in the areas
of your choice.
If you are willing to suspend all skepticism, judgment, analysis, logic
and rationale while engaging in the various methods of guided
communication with your own unconscious mind, well, "magic" just
happens....
I will be showing you how to open up that channel of
communication with your own unconscious mind so you can reprogram it to
give you the responses you seek.
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ANSWER:
The course of Life Coaching & Holistic Counseling is like building a house.
In the first session we create a "blueprint" that will harmonize with
your desired outcome.
The following few sessions concentrate on clearing and leveling the land
[old
emotional blocks and unwanted baggage] and putting in the
foundation [accessing new and more resourceful thinking].
By around the
sixth or seventh session, the framing for the walls are raised and the
assembly for the roof trusses (skeleton of a roof) is begun.
At this point in time, and for the previous week or so, you have likely
become aware of noticeable changes and improvements in your thinking and
in your feelings.
In fact, you are now able to really experience the
quantum leaps you have been making by the end of each visit.
Actually, sometimes a client will prematurely believe they are all better
and done with Life Coaching & Holistic Counseling.
While they have
certainly improved, for most of them, to abort the work would be like
cutting the top of the weed off and leaving the roots to produce more
weeds. At this point, it would be a tragic mistake to stop the work.
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ANSWER:
As further sessions take place, other people may begin to notice and
comment on your amazing and impressive changes.
For instance, you may no
longer be acting temperamental or irritable, or you seem so much more relaxed to the
point that you actually look younger because the stress lines in your
face have disappeared.
Family, friends or co-workers ask if you have lost weight when the only
weight you have lost are those heavy emotional burdens you have been
carrying. Perhaps you seem so much more energized, creative, relaxed, happier and
more at peace.
Near the end of your work, you will achieve a state of continuous positive
self-reflection, self-directed action, and self-acceptance. You will
proudly hold yourself accountable for all your own actions and
behaviors.
Your self-confidence soars,
abundance
in life's
treasures are flowing, and profound inner peace resides within you. In
addition, you have resolved, healed and fully recovered from whatever
issues you had in the beginning.
When this happens, your imaginary house is now complete. All the finishing
work and interior decorating is done--although most people will say a house
is forever a work in progress.
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ANSWER:
Next, a phase-out plan may be arranged. It could be a decision to continue
with semi-monthly or monthly sessions for a while.
This would result in
accelerated emotional and spiritual evolution. Alternately, a final
session is scheduled for a review of your progress, and for creating
closure.
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ANSWER:
Please
click or tap here for details on the cost and what you get for your
money.
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Can I bring my
pet in with me?
ANSWER:
Service animals are
welcome. Other pets, if contained in a carrier or on a
leash are also welcome provided they do not create a
disturbance during your session.
ANSWER:
Health care insurance generally only covers licensed psychologists,
psychotherapists, and psychiatrists under mental health benefits.
[There is no license available to cover the kind of work I do as a Life
Coach & Holistic Counselor.]
PROS:
Your insurance co-pay cost is relatively low.
CONS:
Mental health coverage
differs widely between insurance companies. However, some commonalities may
include a very limited number of sessions such as a maximum of six or twelve
45-50 minute sessions. These limited number of sessions may then be scheduled
monthly instead of weekly, frequently due to a backlog of waiting patients.
There is often a waiting list of weeks or months before receiving treatment
through an HMO or PPO plan.
Different medications are generally prescribed along with this brief
treatment program.
The fact that you have received mental health benefits goes into your
medical record, and there is always a risk that confidentiality might be
compromised.
Also, if your diagnosis falls into a major personality disorder category as
defined by the DSM-V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manuals of Mental
Disorders), this could possibly prevent you from ever qualifying for mental
health coverage with a new insurance company later on.
There is also the
risk of these records being discovered by a prospective employer and causing
you to lose out on a coveted job opportunity in the future.
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ANSWER:
My appointment hours are from 2:00 to 3:00
or to 3:30 pm and 4:15 to 5:15 or to 5:45 pm (depending on the length of
session you choose)Tuesday through Saturday.
Some mornings may also be available usually beginning at 10:45
or 11:15 am and ending at 12:15
pm. Sunday and Monday is my weekend off. (In an emergency, if
possible, I will also do a session with you during my weekend off.)
Small adjustments to my hours can often be made to accommodate a difficult
schedule. Please discuss this with me if you have a challenge fitting your
schedule into mine.
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ANSWER:
[The following answer is a direct quote from Wikipedia.]
The PhD is the highest degree. An MD is a professional degree, nothing more.
A PhD is always a higher degree than this and represents a finished
education whereas an MD is nowhere near the completion of an education, There
is no dispute on this.
A PhD holder is called "Doctor" and this is never confused with a physician
who is also referred to in society as "doctor" but who is only one for
professional reasons.
People often say that we should not call PhDs doctor because this is
confusing... confusing for WHOM? No PhD would condescend to misrepresent
herself by telling someone that she was a physician if she was not (as if
she would actually care!).
Thus, no one is confused; this is a misrepresentation and a
mischaracterization that lay people persist in believing.
Therefore, PhDs are always called "doctor" because it is a matter of respect
to those who are, indeed doctors, and who have indeed earned the highest
form of education available.
[Here is the short answer: An MD is taught what to think; a PhD is
taught how to think.]
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ANSWER:
Many years ago I was a psychotherapist in a psychiatric clinic. A young
woman came to me for help. Wanting to be friendly, I invited her to call me
Dianne.
She immediately registered a look of shock and horror as she loudly
proclaimed: I can't do that! If I can't call you "Doctor," then I can't
believe you will be able to help me to heal!
Since that time, I have made it a practice to welcome whatever name my
clients prefer to call me.
Some of the monikers that have been used (besides
Dianne or Dr. Ruth) are: Doc, Dr. Dianne, Dr. Di, Ruth, plus some other
delightful nicknames. Please call me whatever makes you comfortable, and I
will be happy.
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I promise that information provided to me about you will be treated as
confidential.
There may be rare occasions when a client has an unusual presenting issue
and I may seek a trusted and reputable colleague's opinion on a treatment
plan. This is done, however, without ever revealing who you are or any
information that could ever lead to your identity.
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Imagine Sandy wanted to drive across the country from
Los Angeles to New York City, but she didn’t have a map or knowledge of
the routes.
Being determined to make the trip in spite of this
problem, Sandy looks for a road sign that says, "east," which just
happens to be I-10.
After a
considerable amount of time later, Sandy reaches the east coast;
however, Sandy discovers she is in Jacksonville, Florida instead of New
York City!
Refusing to give up, Sandy realizes that she now needs to
go north. Well, I-95 goes north, so Sandy starts driving again. Finally she reaches her
destination, travel weary and nearly broke.
The
paperwork I ask for provides me with an overview of a map that shows the
best and fastest way for me to help you reach your goal. Because the
trip is so much shorter and you have saved a huge amount of money, you
are much happier, richer and feel amazingly confident, valued and
experience a profound sense of inner peace.
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No. I take
confidentiality very seriously. I do not employ a receptionist nor do I use
a phone answering service. My phone has a dedicated line just for my
business–no one else answers my phone... ever. I answer all calls
personally.
If I am
unavailable, you can rest assured that my voice mail is also completely
confidential as I am the only one who ever listens to it.
In addition, I
always
communicate directly with you about scheduling appointments or any other
questions or concerns you wish to discuss.
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If you have a question that is not answered above, please
contact me by phone, text or email and I will
answer it personally. If it is a question with an answer that may be of
interest to others, then I will also post it here.
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