The One-Step Reframe
Also Known as "Give it the Finger"
technique will help you to negotiate a behavioral change within your self.
It will resolve inner conflicts between what you want consciously and what
your unconscious mind is compelling you to do.
the internal change you seek was something you could have done through
will power alone, you would have made the change already. So therefore,
some other deeper part of you is running the unwanted behavior,
attitude, or response.
This mini exercise will allow you
to communicate with the part of your unconscious mind that is running the
unwanted behavior. It is assumed that the part responsible for the
unwanted action has a positive intention for you, even though you may not
like the way in which it is accomplishing that intention. That part may be trying
to protect you or take care of you in some way.
You may even wish to
take a few moments to ask this part within yourself what it is doing FOR
you ... then listen to your internal responses. For example, if
I put off paying my bills, then I will have more money in the bank, and
that will make me feel more secure.
We want that part to keep on
having positive intentions for you, even if you don't know exactly what
they are! In fact, we want it to find even more positive ways
even BETTER care of you. After doing this technique, you will then get the
desired outcome so the new actions happen naturally and automatically.
Some examples of responses or behaviors that
you might want to change could include a desire to generate
more creativity, improve your concentration and recall, become more
assertive, have more energy, break bad habits such as fingernail
biting, chronic lateness, help with some addictions, and so forth.
You can literally use this
technique for thousands of ideas for self-improvement. It may not work
100% for everything–what does?
Meantime, just go for it ... experiment ... and have fun!
First, identify the unwanted
behavior, response, or attitude. Clearly separate the behavior from the
intention in your mind. In the beginning, it might help to create a setup statement on paper such as: "I want to
communicate with the part of me that is causing me to [state
problem, e.g., procrastinate with
paying my bills]."
I am a hypnotist in
Dallas, TX. A friend of mine ran across Dr. Ruth's FINGER technique. We
just love it! He used it to help him get some fresh ideas to lose weight
and it changed his whole diet.
I used it to overcome NOT
wanting to work. For some reason I just was tired of working. Think I
was mad at the hubby or something, anyway, after doing it, I got the
idea to read a book called BOOK YOURSELF SOLID and I got booked solid.
focus statement down can be
helpful when first learning this exercise, followed by reading it aloud.
Begin with, "Even
though a part of me is causing me to [insert problem, e.g., procrastinate with paying my bills], I honor and respect the
part of me that has positive intentions for my care and protection."
Rest either hand on a table, your
lap, or a chair arm, palm down, or float it in the air, in a very relaxed position.
Lift your index, or any other finger fully while
quickly repeating the following words aloud "to your finger". . .
I won't be able to return my finger to its original
position any more quickly than my unconscious mind begins to generate
and utilize at least three or more behaviors which it feels are superior
to what it had been doing and which are totally appropriate and
acceptable to all parts of me,* [optional: ...and I will be delightfully surprised
to discover how easily I am able to get the outcome that I want.]
patiently for your finger to indicate that your internal processing is
complete. You will know when
this is done by seeing your finger lower back down to its original
position. Sometimes it happens in a few seconds; sometimes it takes
several minutes... or more.
Interestingly, you may or may not
even know what the better choices are that have been selected at the
You may discover what they are while reflecting on a
later event that had within it better decision making; you may find
yourself in a situation similar to an old one and suddenly you discover
that your old behavior or response has been replaced by a new one; you may
simply discover that the quality of your life is enriched.
will be a little different. Sometimes it will be a lot different, and
sometimes it will be completely transformed. Whichever way it is for you,
you have experienced taking control of your life by changing your
On occasion, the
results may not be immediately evident.
may be several days before you notice that a change has taken place.
About 80% to 90% of the time, you will only need to do
this exercise once to get your desired results. Alternately, repetition
may be needed when dealing with a problem that has many layers. Persistence pays!
You may realize that with will power and intent, you can purposefully bring your index finger down, even though the
procedure is not complete. This will not interfere with the internal
your attention is elsewhere, if the internal process is incomplete,
your finger will automatically pop back up again. If it is
complete, however, your finger will not go back up by itself; it will
remain back in its original position.
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*Concept developed by René Pfalzgraf, (June
1990). Rapporter. Cottonwood, AZ
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