How to Tell if You are Emotionally Blocked
A Case Study
Jack had dreams of becoming a very successful businessman. He really liked his job as a copy editor with a publishing company.
The problem was that Jack had received messages throughout his childhood from his family that he was bad; that he didn’t deserve to have what he wanted; that he was clumsy, stupid and dumb; that he couldn’t do anything right, and that he would never amount to anything.
Because he had internalized all those negative messages he got as a child, there was a deeper, inner, unconscious part of him that now believed them to be true for him.
Therefore, every time he would strive for advancement, raise in pay, or promotion, he would unconsciously do something to sabotage himself from moving ahead in his job.
Some of the things he would do was to make a lot of "stupid" mistakes; sometimes he would complain about working conditions without offering possible solutions, and he really didn’t get along very well with some of his coworkers.
Jack, because of getting some "BLOCK BUSTING" Life Coaching & Alternative/Holistic Counseling done with me is now word-crafting his first book. He has already gotten an advance on it and is now in love with life–his life.
He has also evolved into being a much sought after employee at his publishing company job, which he hopes to eventually replace with full-time writing.
The Anatomy of a STUMBLING BLOCK
AN EMOTIONAL STUMBLING BLOCK is something that obstructs; an obstacle. In the case of moving forward in one’s life, a STUMBLING BLOCK is an emotional obstruction usually resulting in a LIMITING BELIEF or LIMITING DECISION that hinders or prevents one from achieving a consciously desired outcome such as a positive accomplishment.
EMOTIONAL BLOCKS and LIMITING BELIEFS operate largely at the unconscious or subconscious level. That is why they cannot be simply released with conscious will.
The structure of a STUMBLING BLOCK is made up of negative emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, pain, and/or guilt. Fear tends to be a predominating force or BLOCK for most people who want to get on with their lives. I believe that all emotions are positive at the time of need, however.
Imagine, for a moment, that you are walking across the street at an intersection when suddenly a big truck comes careening around the corner. Now, if you don’t get scared and jump out of the way, you will be run over. Getting scared is positive—it can save your life!
Now imagine that the fear does not go away after that event. In fact, it turns into something so negative that, from that time on, every time you see a truck, it causes you to startle and jump. Maybe you cannot even drive on freeways because of all the big trucks out there!
Where this condition now becomes a serious obstacle is if, for example, you have always loved vacationing by car, or your job requires a lot of driving—only now, you are no longer able to enjoy traveling by car because of your nightmarish and irrational fear of trucks.
Some Clues to Being Blocked
How do you know if you have any STUMBLING BLOCKS? Some symptoms of having BLOCKS are a tendency toward procrastination and feeling conflicted.
If you chronically put off doing some task, or you’ve tried everything to change an unwanted behavior, and nothing has worked, then you are STUCK or BLOCKED. Fears and beliefs that you can’t do/have/accomplish or get over something are emotional BLOCKS!
Having an overwhelming fear of public speaking; believing that you just can’t get organized/do math/have unbelievable prosperity/balance your checkbook/have an adventure/experience a fulfilling relationship/start a business/meditate, and so on, are all evidence of STUMBLING BLOCKS.
There may be some things that you simply have no interest in doing such as planting and tending a garden. You may rather be spending your time in spiritual pursuits/study/crafts or world travel.
STUMBLING BLOCKS are what get in the way when you want to accomplish something and you find yourself not able to reach your desired outcomes.
The result produces a conflict. Part of you wants to take some action toward a goal; another part of you gets in the way.
Tried Everything? Nothing Works?
Another illustration of being
BLOCKED with fear is that of Joan.
Joan had tried everything. She had tried seeing a psychiatrist—, which didn’t seem to really help much at all. She had read tons of self-help books and listened to many self-help cassette tapes and CDs; she had tried counting to 10 before angrily expressing her paralyzing fear and misery to her lover; she even tried using will power to make herself stop being so jealous.
As long as she was so emotionally immobilized with BLOCKS, her relationship was in jeopardy, and she was unable to move forward with her life plan. She had a STUMBLING BLOCK as big as a house, and knew it!
Using my system, she quickly and easily identified the cause of the BLOCK. In this case, she was modeling her mother’s behavior toward her father who did have a tendency to wander.
She was then able to re-design and re-define her response to her lover—who was faithful. This was through a simple process of releasing the unwanted actions, and reprogramming her unconscious mind for a permanent and positive change.
This included using some newly developed techniques involving the simple application of quantum physics combined with elements from ancient shamanic mysteries.
Through a sophisticated form of guided imagery and performing some quick action energy releases, she was able to achieve freedom of choice rather than being a victim of her unconscious reactions.
Today, Joan is an acclaimed
musician. She also feels incredible inner
security. She now enjoys a mutually rewarding and exciting relationship
with her significant other.
We can’t change the curves that life often throws at us, however, we can change how we decide to respond to them.
Oftentimes we go into a tailspin and become stuck with old outdated responses. It's a little like a car spinning its wheels in mud, sand or snow and getting nowhere.
When triggered, these responses to life events and people are excessive to the situation. These old unresolved feelings continue to be released along with a current incident that contains similar feelings.
Sometimes, no matter what we do, we are stuck because we just don’t know how to get unstuck.
The problem with being stuck is that as we attempt to move forward with our lives, these blocks of negative energy can subtly sabotage our efforts so we can’t fully get to our goals and dreams.
Sometimes we can get there but we can’t keep our passions energized.
Blocks are simply made up of negative emotional charges.
Another way to look at it is blocks are stored as areas of muscle tension, and can be located in different parts of our bodies.
Keeping them there is a little like holding a balloon under water. It takes energy to do that.
Now, some techniques offer us better ways to keep the balloon under water.
An example would be counting to 10 before we become angry!
What the methods described in the Magical Toolbox section all have in common are easy ways to simply let the air out of the balloon so that you are free to move forward, have more energy and give life to the dream of your life.